Do you know, when someone calls you annoying because you brought yourself down to their level because you don't want them to feel left out or something, it's really really ironic?
As they say "Don't argue with idiots, they will drag you down to your level and beat you by experience."
I guess you could always switch the word "idiot" with something else.
Anyway I think I'm done ranting about these few people, because it's honestly a waste of time. It reminds me when I had to team up with atheists and agnostics and muslims alike to debate this.... I don't know what to call him in the All about religion forum in the LYN.
You argue with him with logic and reason he keeps thinking that he's right and we're all wrong when everyone agrees that he doesn't make sense.
Arguing is something quite simple actually. Someone tells you his/her points, justifies it. In your defense, you have to refute every single argument and make your own counter-arguments.
For example. In the case of THAT person...
1. You're being really LoA by making really loud yet arrogant comments on what people has to say about things. You won't stop using that really annoying tone to complain about how everyone seems to be annoying to you and you're not. And not just that, you blame them for being loa but what about you?
I mean honestly, for your age it's understandable. But when you get overconfident and start thinking that you posses some superior intellect compared to your friends, then that's where you breached the tolerance line. When you start claiming that you can do SO MANY things which you probably can't.... Gosh you know how annoying that is?
e.g. I CAN study and get straight A's for my SPM, all A+'s. All I have to do is study real hard. But I don't proclaim that to everyone, why? Because I know that I'm bound to be distracted and I'm really lazy. Furthermore, while it's possible, I don't think being so overconfident by proclaiming these things to my friends will make things any better.
Everyone can dream, but what's the difference if you don't even do anything to chase the dream?
Stop calling the kettle black when you're the pot yourself.
These are some examples, and in an argument, the person this was directed to will have to refute the following points.
If they cannot refute, then you might as well just give up and admit that maybe yeah, you've been practicing double standards.
This thing is when you cannot refute my claims, you go on and on about how I'm in the wrong without any form of justification at all.
And this happened to me like 3 times all by girls?
In Rachel's case, I was wrong for throwing my temper that night, and it made me really angry at myself, I even teared. Even though I still thought she was wrong in what she did, I still apologized because my acts were wrong no matter what.
I won't justify me throwing my temper because I can't. I admit, my fault.
And yeah they apologized for their fault and I apologize for my faults.
If someone condemns me for throwing my temper I'd gladly say that it was my fault and in fact I did. Even to Nigel. I won't say "Wth she dam annoying it's her fault that I explode". Because no matter what it was my fault.
Get what I'm saying? Eventually you'll have to learn how to reflect on yourself if not you'll be a bad person. And yeah I know that my pride is "kembang-ing". And certain aspects of my life is getting bad. But I will not doubt myself and say that I am forever in the wrong in every circumstances because justice is there for a reason.
That's one side of the story.
When I asked someone like Christine, what she would do. You wanna know her answer?
Asked what she would do if she was treated with injustice, she said "I'll just keep quiet."
Now that's something that I find really really hard to do, being a gung-ho "I fight until I die" type of person.
But as a Taekwondo senior once told me "It's better to walk out of a fight knowing that you'd win"
And Jesus saying that we ought to turn the other cheek. Though he also did talk about defending one self, given that he told his disciples to get daggers and swords. But I think defending yourself and repaying evil with evil is something that I ought to think about.
But see it's something really hard to do. Talk about having the power to crush your opponents but just walking out of a fight like this. Knowing that you'd win....
The worse part is when they think that you're a coward and that THEY won the fight.
I know someone would say "But God sees your heart". We know that. But being humans, there's this sense of vengeance in us, this sense of wanting to look down on our enemies.
But pride is a dangerous thing....
It's time to pray and reflect.
Maybe it's true that I always want to win an argument. When I'm wrong I'm wrong. But am I really treating life as a big debate all the time? Am I afraid to give and take? Am I afraid to walk out of a fight knowing that I'd win but walking out knowing that it's not worth the damage?
I might've found the right person. But am I the right person?
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